#6: Be patient with your impatience 😐

Looking good, Regrets, suffering, emotions..

Happy Monday! I had a roller-coaster week, from having dinner at one of the finest restaurants with a magnificent view of the Chicago city to feeling stuck and letting my emotions take the best of me I have been all over the place. But I am certain that these experiences will make me more empathetic and kind and that’s what I want to be. So, in this edition, I am sharing articles related to mental health and how I am learning to keep my emotions in check. As always grab a coffee, get comfortable, play some lo-fi music, and enjoy edition #6

Quote of the week

We suffer more in our imagination than reality. - Seneca

1.Looking good vs. getting good

  • Having the right directions to the wrong destination is a universal problem.

  • While the time behind you can’t be changed, the time in front of you is completely malleable.

  • The shame is not in playing the game. The shame is being so focused on constant validation that you lose the courage to try new things

  • Never stop building your talent stack: be a chess player, not a chess piece

2.No Regrets: Living a Life Looking Forward

  • It is too easy to get caught up in local optimization or the easy thing that is immediately ahead without exploring the bigger bets and step functions that we could be working toward.

  • If you are growing every day, there is no room for regret, only forward progress.

  • Often regret is the failure to reframe.

3.If You Want to Stand Out, Put Your Head Down

  • The world is only as loud as you want it to be.

  • Commit to one year of dedicated practice on one skill. If it’s writing, don’t waste a second of your time on social media. You’ll know you’re improving when other people start sharing your work.

  • Consistency trumps duration.

The skill of making fast connections with people and writing will never go out of style.

4.The Avoidance of Suffering Is Suffering

  • Suffering is inherent in the human condition of life. The human body and mind are a temple of misery — and there is nothing we can do about it.

  • The singular cause of suffering is ignorance. The solution is to replace the attachment to the body with attachment to something higher; God. Being attached to one’s body and its culture leads to misery.

  • Suffering is basically the mind’s refusal to accept reality as it is.

  • The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.

  • The more we identify with ourselves — body, status, what others think, and personality, the more we move away from our true identity; from our spiritual identity, the divine self.

  • Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you. The secret of happiness, you see is, not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.

5.A Neuroscientist’s Strategy for Controlling Your Emotions

  • Emotions aren’t hard-wired in your brain. Instead, they’re made in the moment. Typically, feelings are the result of three things: your body, your past, and your environment. Using physical sensations, memories, or present stimuli as context clues, your brain forms emotions as “guesses” in response to circumstances. And as with all conjectures, your brain isn’t always right the first time.

  • It’s well-known that numbing feelings isn’t helpful, either. Sometimes, riding out feelings with mindful self-compassion is the best way to move forward.

  • Remind yourself your mind is capable of spinning the wrong narrative, and that the inciting event happened in the past.

  • Remember: Most emotions are neither good nor bad; they’re simply clues about what might be happening in your inner world. Second-guessing those clues might lead you to better insight about yourself and, just as importantly, what you need.

Book of the week: Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday

That’s it for this week! Thank you for reading and I really appreciate your time and attention. Feel free to comment or shoot me a message if you found anything interesting in this edition.