#5: Better > Bitter 🤷🏾‍♂️

Unlearning, financial freedom, ideas that changed my life..

Happy Monday! Last Sunday I attended a Tea with Strangers session and I had the most rewarding conversation with the host. Before the event, we didn’t know each other’s names but the way we connected amused me. We shared our experiences on working in the USA as an immigrant, tech & entrepreneurship culture, white supremacy, childhood trauma and how we are learning to deal with it. I encourage everyone to check out Tea with Strangers and I am certain that you’ll have a very satisfying time. The key lesson I learned here is that people are nice, give them a chance. In this week’s edition, I am sharing some articles about unlearning, financial freedom and ideas from the people I admire the most. As always grab a coffee, get comfortable, play some lo-fi music, and enjoy edition #5.

Quote of the week

If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want it to be happier than other people, which is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are. - Charles de Montesquieu


1.Decisions, Discomfort and Confrontation

  • We stumble into things seemingly by accident and they seem random, but they aren’t.

  • You look at where you’re going and where you are and it never makes sense, but then you look back at where you’ve been and a pattern seems to emerge.

  • Most of us prefer to avoid confronting emotional things directly and instead retreat to our own safe place to reflect or heal or be angry.

  • If I could offer one piece of advice to others it would be to always confront, always tackle the hard things, always say something, even if you don’t know what to say. Be the bumbling fool. Be the one who articulates that which you cannot articulate. Be the one who stops an out-of-control cycle from the risk of crashing.


2.Unlearning the first 20 years of my life

  • Our education system rewards memorization, answer-seeking and the pursuit of brand names to signal we are valuable. We are taught to hack bad tests in order to get good grades. However, the hacks we master in the first 20 years ironically lead to a sense of emptiness in adulthood.

  • First 20 years is like learning how to drive while always being told exactly where to go and when to get there. Suddenly, you’re handed the keys, and the ability to choose both the answers and the questions. Where do you want to go? What are you willing to give up? Who do you bring along?

3.Freedom isn't free: why financial freedom is a false goal

  • We chase financial freedom because we think "once I'm free from needing to work for money, I'll find happiness".

  • But happiness is simply the absence of desire. As Caed Budris says, “Happiness is the space between one desire being fulfilled and a new desire forming.”

  • Achieving financial freedom will not rid us of desire. After decades of desiring financial freedom, our desire will find something else to latch on to.

  • Instead of striving for freedom, strive to be in service of higher and higher ideals - of what you believe the world needs. Strive for climbing the ladder of purpose.


4.50 Ideas That Changed My Life - Must read!!!!

  • Mimetic Theory of Conflict: People who are similar are more likely to fight than people who are different. That’s why Civil Wars and family feuds create the worst conflicts. The closer two people are and the more equality between them, the greater the potential for conflict.

  • Demand Curves Slope Down: The harder something is to do, the fewer people will do it. For example, raise the price of a product and fewer people will buy it. Lower the price and more people will buy it. Economics 101.

  • Opportunity Cost: By reading this blog, you are choosing not to read something else. Everything we do is like this. Doing one thing requires giving up another. Whenever you explicitly choose to do one thing, you implicitly choose not to do another thing.

  • Parkinson’s Law: Work expands to fill the time available. People don’t want to look like they’re lazy, so they find extra tasks to tackle, even if they’re trivial. If you have six months to complete a project, it will take six months to complete. Set deadlines accordingly.


5. Tim Ferriss’ System for Mastering Any Skill Is Pure Genius

  • Make a systematic study of how to effectively do something.

  • Read until you can extract no more new insights.

  • Interview folks who have succeeded in the game you want to play, and ask very specific questions.

  • Be a collector of successful work. Keep a swipe file, look for patterns and analyze how they work.

  • Be a collector of successful work. Keep a swipe file, look for patterns and analyze how they work.


From this week, I’ll be sharing the book of the week, i.e the book I am reading primarily to create more accountability for myself and get cool recommendation from you folks. So, don’t hesitate to comment the book you’re reading or a book that has impacted you the most.

Book of the week: The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

That’s it for this week! Thank you for reading and I really appreciate your time and attention. Feel free to comment or shoot me a message if you found anything interesting in this edition.