Welcome back! I have been one of those people who put someone else’s needs before mine but I failed to realize who will put my needs first? I used to blame my upbringing for the way I behave but I think it needs to stop. I cannot let people walk over me, if people yell at me, I need to yell back otherwise they will keep yelling and I will keep feeling sorry for myself. I like to believe that everyone is nice but sometimes the circumstances get the best of everyone. In this edition, I am sharing some of the best productivity advice that I have come across. So, grab a coffee, get comfortable, play some lo-fi music, and enjoy edition #2.
I observe people who have qualities I like and then I try them on for size, first gingerly and eventually fluently.
Myself is the home I can never leave, the vehicle through which I experience the world, and I’m only too happy to modify it to make myself more comfortable.
It’s infinitely reassuring to me to know that everything’s still in flux, that I can be a different person tomorrow than I am today.
One of the many qualities that separate self-made billionaires from the rest of us is their ability to ask the right questions. This is not the right question.
Have courage, you'll need it.
Ask yourself what you have the potential to offer that is so unique and compelling and helpful that no computer could replace you, no one could outsource you, no one could steal your product and make it better and then club you into oblivion (not literally). Then develop that potential. Choose one thing and become a master of it. Choose a second thing and become a master of that. When you become a master of two worlds (say, engineering and business), you can bring them together in a way that will a) introduce hot ideas to each other, so they can have idea sex and make idea babies that no one has seen before and b) create competitive advantage because you can move between worlds, speak both languages, connect the tribes, mash the elements to spark fresh creative insight until you wake up with the epiphany that changes your life.
Do the work. When you do the work, everything else optimizes itself.
If the only thing you must do is the work, why is there so much productivity advice? Blog posts, courses, seminars, software? Because when there is demand, there is supply. Work is hard. People will latch onto anything to avoid doing it. The market is happy to oblige.
Everyone doesn't learn differently. Everyone learns calculus in the same way— by doing the work.
If boredom is a necessary ingredient, then portable internet is a disaster for doing the work.
One quality I deeply admire is a zest for life, making the most of every moment. At my stage in life that requires a degree of open-mindedness and creativity; saying yes to adventures and thinking about all the possibilities life offers.
Ask for help - Asking for help is a form of vulnerability. That's why people tend not to do it, they're afraid of displaying a lack of strength. But really, vulnerability is an incredible strength.
Unless you learn to face your fear you will never achieve anything. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of shame. These are the things that get in between us and our potential.
There is a voice in your head, the one that tells you that you're not good enough, that you embarrassed yourself, that someone is out to get you, that you are not worthy of love, that you are not worthy. That voice is just not helpful. Do not dwell on it or let it run your life.
Let others tell you what you’ve made is crap. Learn why. Notice when they tell you something is great. Figure out why. This transfers to writing as well: Popular advice to get better is to write a lot of junk, do it 100 times, and pay particular attention to what is received well.
Learn to make and execute decisions quickly - Most people have a bias towards analysis-paralysis versus getting shit done.
Learn to tell stories - People donate more to charity when they know a single victim’s story, versus statistics of a thousand deaths. It’s called the Identifiable Victim Effect, but it’s the power of stories over facts. The right framing gets you further than all the facts combined.
Question of the week: What if the right action is no action? Do you have the discipline to wait for the necessary conditions to emerge?
That’s it for this week! Thank you for reading and I really appreciate your time and attention. Feel free to comment or shoot me a message if you found anything interesting in this edition.